How do you feel during the holiday season? For many, the holidays can be a very sad and lonely time triggering depression and grief. Today on Conversations with Coach, I am joined by Author and Coach Karla James Noland of Reveal Heal Thrive LLC to have a much needed discussion. #mentalhealth #depression #grief #holidays #ConversationsWithCoach #christinamindsetcoach #christinacallawaylifecoachingllc #confidence #mindset #mindsetcoach #confidencecoach
Courageous conversations on depression and grief during the holiday season.
Download the High Volume Radio app to listen to the podcast recording on 12/2/21.
When we can address stress in the moment, we can move on instead of dwelling on the issue.
Create 80/20 buckets
“I stop and take a moment to do a five or ten-minute breathing exercise to center myself. Then, I take the thought captive and create 80/20 buckets. I ask myself if what I am anxious about went wrong, will I still be fine? If the answer is yes, then I would place that thought into the 80% bucket. If there is a risk involved, then I would place that thought in the 20% bucket and address the issue from a place of calm and clear-headedness after my breathing exercises.”
—Karla J Noland, personal development coach, Durham, N.C.
@peacefournine Our conversation with Karla J. Noland on the loss of her mother, her grief and healing process, and newly released book “The Day My Heart Turned Blue”.
You can purchase her book at https://revealhealthrive.com/books
It's an honor to be mentioned as the "Black Blogger of the Week" by @Blkgirlscanheal
I applaud their organization for all their good works in providing the resources and space needed for Black Women to give themselves permission to heal! 👑💙🙌🏾
I 💙 my newhope church family! And 💙 the current the Mindset series we will be camping out on for several weeks. Check out my tips on how to disrupt your negative mindset patterns (starting at 8:53) followed by Part 3 of Mindset with Pastor Drew 👑💙
It was my pleasure today to speak with over 70+ Lenovo Summer Interns from across the country on Toastmasters International Public Speaking Tips!
Did you know 77% of our population has a fear of public speaking but only 7% seek professional help?
Learn more about Reveal Heal Thrive Personal Development Coaching on Public Speaking and Presentation skills.
It was my pleasure today to speak with the 2021 Lenovo NAF Academy High School Summer Interns from across the triangle on Toastmasters International Public Speaking Tips!
I know your presentations to your managers and teachers are going to be 🔥🔥🔥!
How often have you set a big goal for yourself and then get overwhelmed by everything you have to get done? Once you are overwhelmed, your vision gets smaller and feelings of anxiety grow larger. You believe you have bitten off more than you can chew and now goal fatigue has set in. How can you move forward if you have goal fatigue?
Goal attainment requires one slice and one bite at a time!
I recently took part in a Positive Intelligence Coaching exercise where I looked at my childhood picture several times a day in efforts to show more self compassion, empathy, and unconditional love for myself.
I visualized taking care of my younger self. I made her laugh, smile, and gave her space to play and be as creative as she wanted to be. I was also attentive to her emotional needs by reassuring her whenever she had doubts about her abilities. I ended the exercise by imagining hugging my younger self and walking hand in hand with her under a rainbow in pure delight.
Throughout this exercise, I never said a harsh word to the younger version of myself. If I will give the younger version of me unconditional love and empathy, then why wouldn’t I do this for the adult version of me? That little girl is still in me. If I do not have self-compassion for the adult version of me, what do I really have?
I deserve compassion, tenderness, and empathy from myself now!
Self-compassion is the ability to understand, accept, and be patient with yourself despite your shortcomings, imperfections, and failures.
5 Steps to Goal Attainment
1. Vision & Goal Setting
2. Tools and Resources
What is your most important life goal right now?
What do you envision for yourself by reaching your goal?
Do you believe you can do this?
What character strengths, skills, and talents can you use, develop, or learn to help you reach your goal?
Who can you reach out to for help or feedback in achieving your goal?
What action step can you take immediately to move one step toward your goal?
How are you going to celebrate each milestone along the way and when you reach your goal?
Your neck feels stiff
“One small way my body tells me to slow down is when I feel tension at the base of my neck. The tension is the warning signal, but if I ignore it, the tension can turn into a knot. The inflammation surrounding the knot feels like a throbbing pain, making it unbearable to work at my desk or sleep peacefully. To ease my stress levels, I’ve rearranged my schedule to incorporate more mindfulness exercises throughout my day. I begin my day with meditation, prayer, and gratitude journaling. And midway through my schedule, I take a walk outside to reconnect with nature.”
—Karla J. Noland, personal development and executive coach, Durham, N.C.
For the longest time, my mental health suffered
from the lasting effects of grief and unhealed
trauma. My earliest childhood memories are
riddled with parental domestic violence, walking
on eggshells so as not to provoke my father and
vying for the attention of others to feel needed. As a result,
I found myself in a constant state of restlessness, hyper-
vigilance and self-loathing.
I normalized and justified this destructive behavior to survive.
I made emotional decisions based on the needs and wants of
others and put myself last. This habit culminated in feelings of
resentment, self-induced suffering and depression. I tried my best
to suppress the sadness I was feeling, as if I could fake happiness
to get by each day.
I established Reveal Heal Thrive LLC in October 2020, after the untimely passing of my mother. When I picked up my mother’s belongings, I experienced a self-realization moment in how I would live my life from that point forward. I spent much of my life holding on to pain, trauma, and anger. As part of my healing process, I recognized I was merely surviving in life but was not thriving. I wanted to live a more purposeful life and let go of any attachments that no longer served me. Over time, I turned my adversity into opportunity.
Karla James Noland created an initiative to help working mothers prioritize themselves and their dreams. Karla provided pro bono coaching for five pro bono clients 1:1 from January to July 2021 and was the only coach for the initiative. The project provided 47 pro bono sessions. Her clients’ State Your Life Assessment scores, confidence and self-compassion improved over the six-month period.
For example, one of my pro bono clients retook her State Your Life Assessment and she improved by 25 points with a 78% increase from the first time she took her assessment. She wanted to get down on herself for not doing more, but when shown that the percentage increased, she was shocked at her improvement.
I had a wonderful time speaking with 135+ Women in Lenovo Leadership and Allies for the FYQ3 Professional Development Series – Discovering the Power of Character Strengths
For years, a person's character was viewed as something you were born and stuck with. However, research has shown that people can develop their character by simply taking a moment to focus their attention on their thoughts and actions.
Today, we learned Character Strengths matter by helping us manage problems more effectively.
- It raises self-awareness
- It boosts your confidence in your ability to handle future challenges
- It gives you ideas for how to create circumstances that empower you to overcome challenges.
What are your top 5 signature strengths? Take the VIA Character Strengths survey for free at https://www.viacharacter.org/